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| JPNH |
 Jan 24 2010, 07:48 PM
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Newbie  Group: jpUS Members Posts: 5 Joined: 6-December 07 From: Keene NH Member No.: 958 jpUS member?: Yes  |
I noticed on the NH site that it said gay marriages are now allowed.
I would prefer same sex wording but as I am hetro do not know how persons in these relationships would prefer to call it. I also read elsewhere that the wording as to status may have moved on from companion or partner to husband/husband, wife/wife. I have not run into this personally. Any thoughts on either of these matters? I feel that at the present time these issues are still new and being worked out. |
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| CT_JP_Ernest |
Jan 24 2010, 08:52 PM
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Member Group: Administrators Posts: 19 Joined: 18-June 08 From: Ledyard, CT Member No.: 967 jpUS member?: Yes |
In all cases, whether hetrosexual or homosexual, we should ask how the couple to be married wishes us to word their ceremony.
Just as, when being introduced for the first time to their guests, some couples prefer to be called "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith", others like "Jane & John Smith", some prefer to be called "Jane Jones & John Smith". During the ceremony we might call Ms Johnson "Chris", "Christine", or "Chrissy", and Mr. Lee "Kim", "KJ", or "Skip". So with the words "bride", "groom", "partner", "spouse", "husband", "wife", and so on. As Justices of the Peace, we give couples choices. When writing a ceremony for a same-sex couple (and that's the way I refer to people who some may label "Gay", "Lesbian", or ...), I always, always give them the choice. It's not up to me to ask "Which of you wants to be 'The Bride'?" If both want to be called "groom", that's fine. When asked, most couples will have an opinion. Check out WWW.NutmegJusticeOfThePeace.Com/GayWeddings.html for a brief look at what I tell "my" same-sex couples. |
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| JPBarsalou |
Jan 24 2010, 09:09 PM
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Advanced Member Group: jpUS Members Posts: 30 Joined: 18-September 06 From: Enfield,CT. Member No.: 13 jpUS member?: Yes |
My couples refer to each other as wife/wife or husband/husband.
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| mariejp |
Jan 25 2010, 10:18 PM
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Member Group: jpUS Members Posts: 23 Joined: 8-November 06 Member No.: 56 jpUS member?: Yes |
I always ask ans don't make assumptions. Everyone is different.
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| JPNH |
Feb 16 2010, 10:36 AM
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Newbie Group: jpUS Members Posts: 5 Joined: 6-December 07 From: Keene NH Member No.: 958 jpUS member?: Yes |
I really like "You are now well and truly married" Sounds a little old fshioned and formal.
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| Willowyn |
Mar 5 2010, 01:23 PM
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Newbie Group: jpUS Members Posts: 4 Joined: 16-October 08 Member No.: 972 jpUS member?: Yes |
JPNH, I love the phrase, "you are now well and truly married". So simple, and so graceful. As a matter of fact, I will add that to today's ceremony. My couple had been struggling with finding just the right phrases, and I know they'll love this one!
And JP CT Ernest, thank you for the link to some great ideas and food for thought. As someone who is also "Straight for Equality", it's not always easy to know the right words. But then again, no matter the gender mix, each of our couples are different and we should do everything we can to ensure their wishes are met. |
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| CarolR |
Mar 6 2010, 07:14 PM
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Newbie Group: jpUS Members Posts: 7 Joined: 9-June 09 From: New Hampshire Member No.: 996 jpUS member?: Yes |
I ask how same sex couples want to be addressed and I haven't had any problems. On my business card I offer alternative weddings instead of gay marriages. I feel it just sounds better and is respectful.
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