A Rose By Any Other Name
Posted 24 January 2010 - 07:48 PM
I would prefer same sex wording but as I am hetro do not know how persons in these relationships would prefer to call it. I also read elsewhere that the wording as to status may have moved on from companion or partner to husband/husband, wife/wife. I have not run into this personally. Any thoughts on either of these matters?
I feel that at the present time these issues are still new and being worked out.
Posted 24 January 2010 - 08:52 PM
Just as, when being introduced for the first time to their guests, some couples prefer to be called "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith", others like "Jane & John Smith", some prefer to be called "Jane Jones & John Smith". During the ceremony we might call Ms Johnson "Chris", "Christine", or "Chrissy", and Mr. Lee "Kim", "KJ", or "Skip". So with the words "bride", "groom", "partner", "spouse", "husband", "wife", and so on.
As Justices of the Peace, we give couples choices. When writing a ceremony for a same-sex couple (and that's the way I refer to people who some may label "Gay", "Lesbian", or ...), I always, always give them the choice. It's not up to me to ask "Which of you wants to be 'The Bride'?" If both want to be called "groom", that's fine. When asked, most couples will have an opinion.
Check out WWW.NutmegJusticeOfThePeace.Com/GayWeddings.html for a brief look at what I tell "my" same-sex couples.
Posted 24 January 2010 - 09:09 PM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 10:18 PM
Posted 16 February 2010 - 10:36 AM
Posted 05 March 2010 - 01:23 PM
And JP CT Ernest, thank you for the link to some great ideas and food for thought. As someone who is also "Straight for Equality", it's not always easy to know the right words. But then again, no matter the gender mix, each of our couples are different and we should do everything we can to ensure their wishes are met.
Posted 06 March 2010 - 07:14 PM
Posted 11 March 2011 - 02:49 AM
The same-sex couples that I've asked have no consistent opinions.
Posted 30 September 2011 - 10:15 AM
Like the Title
"A Rose By Any Other Name"!
For more rousing discussion regarding Roses By Other Names:
I continue to stand upon my soap box regarding the use of the term Same-Sex and how it affects the public perception and reaction,
as opposed to the term
To date EVERY ONE of my same gender couples, including those in my own family who are homosexual,
have come not only to appreciate, but embrace and prefer the use of the term
I remember when I was interviewed by THE NEW YORK TIMES when I STRESSED the use of same gender versus same-sex. The reporter told me "Sorry Lady. Sex Sells. It's provocative. Gender isn't."
EXACTLY my point!
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1. Grammar .
a. (in many languages) a set of classes that together include all nouns, membership in a particular class being shown by the form of the noun itself or by the form or choice of words that modify, replace, or otherwise refer to the noun, as, in English, the choice of he to replace the man, of she to replace the woman, of it to replace the table, of it or she to replace the ship. The number of genders in different languages varies from 2 to more than 20; often the classification correlates in part with sex or animateness. The most familiar sets of genders are of three classes (as masculine, feminine, and neuter in Latin and German) or of two (as common and neuter in Dutch, or masculine and feminine in French and Spanish).
b. one class of such a set.
c. such classes or sets collectively or in general.
d. membership of a word or grammatical form, or an inflectional form showing membership, in such a class.
2. sex: the feminine gender.
3. Archaic . kind, sort, or class.